Miss Independent?

I have read lots of articles about qualities an ideal woman should possess. According to most men an ideal woman should be beautiful, caring, loving bla bla bla and the shocker, independent! Yes most men nowadays are scared of responsibilities and want a woman who already has their thing together or a woman who has lots of potential. They want to be able to do a fifty fifty in the house. Men are now on the hunt for women who are on the upward scale. I differed with that a lot and wanted to see if there are ANY men out there who still want to be the head of the house and take care of their family. Good grief I was relieved to find actually there are still GOOD men out there!

There is a DEEPER meaning to being walked down the aisle that people choose to ignore. Your father walks you down the aisle and hands you over to your husband-to-be. The person who took care of you is always the one who walks you down the aisle. Why not let any random guy/uncle/relative walk you down? What does this signify? He is not just handing over your hand or body for that matter, he is handing over the whole responsibility of taking care of you. Now ladies, did you pay rent in your dad's house? That is exactly what I am talking about. Your husband ought to take FULL responsibility. Wait before you swallow me alive here are some biblical pointers:

First and foremost, working to provide for the woman is men's curse from God! Remember the garden of Eden? when Eve Convinced Adam to eat the fruit? Genesis 3: 17-19, God actually cursed him, told him that he will have to toil to eat. So man has to work to put food on the table and not the woman. Eve's curse was to bring forth children in pain. So while the man is fighting to split financial roles, why doesnt he go ahead and get pregnant as well uh?

1st Cor 11: 3
We are told that Christ is the head of every man and the man is the head of a woman. Can you lead a person without showing direction? The first role of a man is to lead his family. They should be able to oversee everything in the home and provide both physical and spiritual needs. How can you be the head when all you do is split the rent in half, and all the other bills as well? 

Another biblical pointer is in I Timothy 5:8 - "But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own household, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel". Marriage is a financial venture and the husband has a responsibility to finance or support or provide for his family. This is talking about money. As a husband, your earnings are not your own but belong to your wife as well and your children!  

See? I didnt make this up, its all there in the bible. Dont get me twisted honey. I am not saying that a woman should not work at all, I am however of the opinion that the woman is supposed to be just a helper you know to chip in here and there when times are tough but should not be obligated to do a fifty-fifty with the husband.

I know I want a man who will provide for me, who will not compete with me in terms of finances and who will want to be THE MAN. Instead of competing with me he should show honor as I am the weaker vessel . 1st Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Ladies I am not saying that you just sit and relax and spend your money on shoes. You know as much a man will do most of the stuff, he will buy meat yes but doesn't know that that meat needs tomatoes and stuff to be stew, he will pay rent but the kitchen needs utensils et al. Strive to be the proverbs 31 woman you know be the one that is always on the look out for investment ideas, have savings for when its raining and your man will know though he does the lion's share in the house, he knows he can always count on you!