The Things we take for granted

When it rains we all want sunshine, when the sun shines, we all complain how hot it is.

This past few months, I have been on and off unwell and treating myself (I love over the counter drugs by the way) On Saturday night I had this pain from hell, took pain killers and as usual forgot about it, a few days later it got worse so I casually told a buddy while we were chatting, but her reaction threw me into panic mode. Being in the medical field she told me to drop everything and to see a doc asap! So I left the office and went to see the doc. I hate hospitals and at this point I wished I wasn't single :( I would have dragged my man to be right there with me. That single hospital visit changed my life and perspective of things. Maybe I should call this the day after my life changed, no? Many are the things we take for granted and inspired this blog post.

The gift of life: Yes it is a gift! You being able to wake up everyday, is just awesome. He causes you to lie down and ensures that you are awake in the morning. Psalms 4:8 In peace I will both lie down and sleep;

for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety. Isn't that awesome? I know sounds really simple but you should always thank God that you are breathing because many people wanted to see this day but lost their lives.

Good health: This I am guilty of not caring about. You think that it  is your right to be healthy as long as you keep a healthy life style, you know, eat well, exercise and keep off drugs. No honey it has taken God's hand for you to be well. Always pray for good health and HE will keep you. And when he gives you the good health THANK HIM.

Fit: So you are able to move around, you are physically fit. Great, your wrist is not broken and you aren't limping because that's how God created you and you see it as normal. Do you know that things can just change in a day a minute even? mm Thank God every morning for your working body parts!

The everyday blessings: You know the song,' thank you God for the blessings on me', I am a whiner and complain about the bad roads, the high cost of living, my damn phone that hangs every single minute and the all time ladies fave; 'I have nothing to wear'. I have never taken a moment to say Thank you God for the roof over my head, for the shoes on my feet, that baby girl is in school, that I have food on my table and I realized my blessings are endless and my life is so beautiful. .Simple count your blessing name them one by one and you will be Surprised what the LORD has done


Family and relationships: NO relationship honey is perfect! But I didn't know that! I thought there are people who never argue, who live on Roses only. Well, I have taken so many relationships for granted especially when I was younger. I have a very sharp tongue and I am extremely wordy and throw people out of my life in a snap! If I was to do things differently I would appreciate the GOOD people that God has placed in my life and learnt to tame my tongue. I love my family!

Friends: Yes, we all need GOOD friends, not just random people who take you for granted, I have had people in my life that I have taken for granted, I only call them up when I need something, yes, yes, I know very bad :( I love to go mute on people especially when I am going through stuff. Please note this does not apply to jerk-asses. I want to keep contact with all my friends and always be the bigger person in the friendship.

My Job: If you have been around me long enough you know how much I hated my job.  Then I took the opportunities that came my way casually. A friend gave me a ride one day to the office and all we spoke about was how doors opened when she changed her attitude! I got to the office that day a changed person and I knew that I have been walking on time bombs and it was just about time before they exploded.  I began to thank God because I have a job that pays all my bills and I never lack, isn't that awesome?

My baby: I can move mountains for her, literally :) . She made me a card for valentine by the way, (that was after I wrote this post and was just editing and stuff so I inserted that line here). She is my all but sometimes I forget she is growing up and not just a baby anymore and I need to stop cooing her. The other day I gave her a shilling to buy her cousin Kibii 'something' I do that all the time when I wanna distract her, she held it in her hand and said 'mum, you know this is just one shilling and cant buy anything, right?' I was like no it can buy a sweet. She is like, okay here, you go buy. Me, give me a 20bob. Gosh. I was shocked! When did she grow up?


I am amazed at my calmness because I know that God cannot give you a Temptation and leave you there. 1st Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. I am thankful because I know that everything works out best for those that trust in God. And My life is a mystery because I don't know what he has in store for me! Ecclesiastes 3:11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.

The Submissive Woman

I begin the month of love with a HOT topic. Hot because women, especially the 'Independent' women HATE to hear the word submission. And I am sure as they begin to read this there is a sneer from here to Timbuktu, no? They have a view that submission equals to being a  doormat! Being weak and allowing your man to boss you around. You remember the old days? when the dad walks in and everyone scatters? well that is what people have pictured submission to be......wearing long holier-than-thou dresses, not kidding around with your man and Just being plain stuck up around him. This is what I like to call the worldly view of submission.

Ladies there is a big difference between being submissive and being a door mat! You have to have your views about things and clear concept about what you want. According to the dictionary Submission is: the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.  You have to have your OWN life. It just means not undermining your man in any way, being able to JOYFULLY serve him and be a HELP MATE. Support him in what he wants to undertake.

If we look at submission in the worldly way it will be hard for us to understand and you will be like, me cook and clean up after a man? am I crazy? No it ain't easy! especially if you are a full time working momma, and both of you left the house in the morning, you may have left even earlier, you know, you are so tired from all the crazy work in the office, then you come cook for some guy and clean after him?? However this is what GOD wants you to do. Not just me.

I am a loud mouth and don't like people who step on my shoes. I like to have my way and most people say I am very stubborn and argumentative, BUT what most people don't know is that I am very submissive. Hard to believe, uh? but yes I am! I LOVE to cook for MY man, to pick out his clothes and ensure his under garments are, well, you know, decent. I am a traditional woman! LOL too good to be true? Yes BUT Hold, hold I can only do that to a man that is A MAN, provides for me, is the HEAD of my family and all that like I blogged here...Miss Independent? You slack in the house all day and expect me to submit? nawa oo (insert Nigerian accent) Its not gonna happen. I am also human plus I loose respect for men very, very easily and that is why I can only date a man that has a VERY strong personality. That I cannot bully. I have met one such man, he argues, he does not let me have my way and is not afraid to tell me when he thinks I am wrong! Sometimes I want to scream out of frustration, but I smile and say mm, this is it, finally a man who can ground me.

We are HOWEVER suppose to submit UNCONDITIONALLY. I lived with a man that I didn't respect at all and found it hard to SUBMIT to.  This SHOULDN'T have been the case, because a marriage is designed for the man to be the head of the family whether he is a dickhead or not. You chose to live with him and have to play that part of being a wife. Not for a day only when you are in a good mood, but its suppose to be a daily act, whether you are in the worst mood or the sky is about to fall down on you. 

God created Adam first then created Eve as His helper, and that is what you are honey, your man's helper. (Genesis 2:18), not his competitor or be on the same level. God commands us to act as the helper and not competing to be same, you know you cook today I cook tomorrow et al.

By submitting you portray internal beauty just like the women of old and your husband will be hooked on you like that! 1 Peter 3 4but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

Unconditional Submission: 1 Peter 2:13
¹³ Be subject for the Lord's sake to every human institution,^[b] whether it be to the emperor^[c] as supreme,..... You are commanded to submit to your man (every human), whether you like it or not, whether he is the best husband or not, whether he goes drinking to the wee hours of the morning and pees on himself whether he screams and does not respect you. 15 For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people. Here is unconditional submission. Your behaviour honey will win them over. Its no good hitting hard on them and nagging them about not being good enough. Mm I am very good at that, and yet, I am not perfect.

Ephesians 5:21 ²¹ submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. says that we should submit in fear of the Lord, serve your husband like you are serving the LORD. Would you place a cup of tea in front of GOD and sneer when you turn the other way? Do it and honor God. Do it to your best ability as you would have done to the LORD. It goes on further to explain why a wife should submit to the man:
²² Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. This is further seen in Titus 2
5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. An additional scripture shows us by treating the husband as the head you are acknowledging God. 1 Cor 11:3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God

I don't know how to end this blog post because right now I am not married, BUT I know when I was, (well sort of) I should have submitted UNCONDITIONALLY and all that. Do not look at submission in the worldly way or look at it as being traditional or as some sort of punishment. Allow the Holy Spirit to dwell in you, focus on what the WORD of God says about submission as highlighted above and it will be easier to submit. So this Valentine, the best gift to your husband is to submit to him, no?