I begin the month of love with a HOT topic. Hot because women, especially the 'Independent' women HATE to hear the word submission. And I am sure as they begin to read this there is a sneer from here to Timbuktu, no? They have a view that submission equals to being a doormat! Being weak and allowing your man to boss you around. You remember the old days? when the dad walks in and everyone scatters? well that is what people have pictured submission to be......wearing long holier-than-thou dresses, not kidding around with your man and Just being plain stuck up around him. This is what I like to call the worldly view of submission.
Ladies there is a big difference between being submissive and being a door mat! You have to have your views about things and clear concept about what you want. According to the dictionary Submission is: the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. You have to have your OWN life. It just means not undermining your man in any way, being able to JOYFULLY serve him and be a HELP MATE. Support him in what he wants to undertake.
If we look at submission in the worldly way it will be hard for us to understand and you will be like, me cook and clean up after a man? am I crazy? No it ain't easy! especially if you are a full time working momma, and both of you left the house in the morning, you may have left even earlier, you know, you are so tired from all the crazy work in the office, then you come cook for some guy and clean after him?? However this is what GOD wants you to do. Not just me.
I am a loud mouth and don't like people who step on my shoes. I like to have my way and most people say I am very stubborn and argumentative, BUT what most people don't know is that I am very submissive. Hard to believe, uh? but yes I am! I LOVE to cook for MY man, to pick out his clothes and ensure his under garments are, well, you know, decent. I am a traditional woman! LOL too good to be true? Yes BUT Hold, hold I can only do that to a man that is A MAN, provides for me, is the HEAD of my family and all that like I blogged here...Miss Independent? You slack in the house all day and expect me to submit? nawa oo (insert Nigerian accent) Its not gonna happen. I am also human plus I loose respect for men very, very easily and that is why I can only date a man that has a VERY strong personality. That I cannot bully. I have met one such man, he argues, he does not let me have my way and is not afraid to tell me when he thinks I am wrong! Sometimes I want to scream out of frustration, but I smile and say mm, this is it, finally a man who can ground me.
We are HOWEVER suppose to submit UNCONDITIONALLY. I lived with a man that I didn't respect at all and found it hard to SUBMIT to. This SHOULDN'T have been the case, because a marriage is designed for the man to be the head of the family whether he is a dickhead or not. You chose to live with him and have to play that part of being a wife. Not for a day only when you are in a good mood, but its suppose to be a daily act, whether you are in the worst mood or the sky is about to fall down on you.
God created Adam first then created Eve as His helper, and that is what you are honey, your man's helper. (Genesis 2:18), not his competitor or be on the same level. God commands us to act as the helper and not competing to be same, you know you cook today I cook tomorrow et al.
By submitting you portray internal beauty just like the women of old and your husband will be hooked on you like that! 1 Peter 3 4but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.
Unconditional Submission: 1 Peter 2:13
13 Be subject for the Lord's sake to every human institution,[b] whether it be to the emperor[c] as supreme,..... You are commanded to submit to your man (every human), whether you like it or not, whether he is the best husband or not, whether he goes drinking to the wee hours of the morning and pees on himself whether he screams and does not respect you. 15 For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people. Here is unconditional submission. Your behaviour honey will win them over. Its no good hitting hard on them and nagging them about not being good enough. Mm I am very good at that, and yet, I am not perfect.
Ephesians 5:21 21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. says that we should submit in fear of the Lord, serve your husband like you are serving the LORD. Would you place a cup of tea in front of GOD and sneer when you turn the other way? Do it and honor God. Do it to your best ability as you would have done to the LORD. It goes on further to explain why a wife should submit to the man:
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. This is further seen in Titus 2
5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. An additional scripture shows us by treating the husband as the head you are acknowledging God. 1 Cor 11:3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God
I don't know how to end this blog post because right now I am not married, BUT I know when I was,
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