I read a joke somewhere that the only bad thing about being pregnant is that everyone knows what you did....so imagine being single with this biiiiiggggg belly. Everyone gives you the look, you know that look. Some even have the guts to ask whether you know about e-pills and that kind of stuff! Yes some people can be that crude! You just wanna hide your face somewhere literally like the proverbial ostrich, that buries its head in the sand BUT the rest of the body is out there.
So as a single mom what is the most important thing you want to hear? That you have forgiven yourself and that most of all you have made peace with the Almighty..
It is important to note that the bible is strongly against sex OUTSIDE marriage. It is a sin, infact one of the greatest sins because one sins against his/her own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 19Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (emphasis is mine)
But our God is faithful and just to forgive no matter what kind of sin we have committed and the best part is that when you run to him there is no condemnation according to Romans 8: 1
I struggled with guilt for so, so long until I came across the story of the woman that was caught in adultery in the book of John: 8.1 Can you imagine that woman was caught in the act, yes IN the act, with hair all messed up and naked and all that but was dragged out to the public just like that and everyone wanted to stone her, to beat her up, I can imagine they were calling her names, and maybe even spiting on her, but Jesus dared them to stone her if they were without sin. Guess what? No one had the guts to, why? Because everyone has sinned and there is no weighing machine for sin, ati now this sin is bigger than this one. No if you go against ANY of His commandments, sorry to disappoint you honey that is regarded as sin.
Now to my scripture: ‘John 8: 7 And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, "Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her." 8 And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. 9But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. 10 Jesus stood up and said to her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" 11 She said, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said, "Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more."
After all that Jesus let her go, stone free, judgment free, just like that. During this whole fiasco where was THE man? She wasn’t doing it alone now, was she? what about you? You weren’t caught in the act. Maybe your relationship failed for one reason or another, or you built your hopes on the man that wasn’t God’s choice for you or you made mistakes in the past, look up! Why? Because Jesus will never, ever condemn you. People will gossip and say lots of nasty stuff, men will judge you and give you the LOOK, you know that kind of look that says what were you thinking? Some even quote verses like Proverbs 14: 1 just to ridicule you blaming you for the relationship that didn't work, some married folks will sideline you, but stay positive. A consolation is that the decision you have made to be single is way better than staying in that abusive relationship, that unhealthy relationship or hanging on to something that is has no future, being with that random dude who only loves your body or your money or something physical and also its way better than abortion.
Most importantly forgive yourself and allow God to renew you, get up and start over again...If I could scream from the rooftops and show you something it's to MOVE ON. I dont regret having my baby, I regret the time I wasted mopping while searching for IT and refusing to let go..
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