Of soul ties..

Why is it so hard to move on from a relationship that failed? Why do you find yourself unable to let go? Have you ever been so tormented by a past relationship that you are NOT ready to love again? Are you drawn to that random who calls you only when they want to get down and treat you like dirt the rest of the time? A guy that in real life you would have hated and avoided like plague. Are you in a relationship where you are TOO obsessed with that person? checking on them EVERY five seconds, rehearsing words you'd say to them, checking your phone for a missed communication from them? Unable to function if they don't call? There...you have soul ties with that person.

A soul tie is a spiritual/emotional connection you have to someone after being intimate with them, usually engaging in UNGODLY sexual intercourse. 1 Corinthians 6:16....16: Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh. People who have many past relationships find it very difficult to 'bond' or be joined to anybody, because their soul is fragmented, scattered and in bondage with many.

It is important to note that not ALL soul ties are bad. If it is a healthy relationship then that is a good soul tie. For example when David's soul was knit to that of Jonathan in the book of 1st Samuel 18:1 18: As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.

My focus though is on the unhealthy soul tie resulting from sexual relationships outside of marriage.


It has been said that every time you have Ungodly sex you introduce like seven spirits into your body. Imagine then that if you have ten sexual encounters and thus introduce seventy spirits into your life, can you picture the spirits fighting over you at night while you sleep? You know one telling the other that 'you had her yesterday, hit it, lemmie have her today!' The devil does not cause harm while we are awake, but most harm is done while we SLEEP...Mathew 13:25 but while his men were sleeping, his enemy came and sowed weeds among the wheat and went away. That is how spiritual husbands and wives are born! (will blog about that soon). Most importantly this is how all sorts of spirits are introduced into our lives; spirit of anger, spirit of lying, spirit of addiction, spirit of indecisiveness, spirit of procrastination, spirit of fear, the list is endless! Stop and examine yourself, you were NOT the lazy kind before or poor, or bisexual but since you HAD SEX with that random suddenly you are struggling to make ends meet, you desire women and you are a woman, ahem, you want to keep postponing things...am I speaking to you? YES this post is for you!. It may seem like an innocent one night stand or casual sex with no strings attached (there is no such thing by the way eventually feelings crop up) BUT whatever they are carrying sips into you somehow!

How do you know your soul is badly tied to someone's?

• First sign is when you are confused. Our God is not a God of confusion and when you feel something is not right about a relationship, then it is not. 
• Second one is when you are always unhappy, you don't know why, you know the unexplained kind of unhappy? Everything seems to take a negative turn, like you don't wanna do anything about your life you just wanna lay there and be idle or roll in the sheets of some random guy but not want to be committed to anyone.
• The last one is that you are always tormented. Your mind is always replaying events of your past relationship and reminding you even the smallest details. You start to compare people in your current relationship to the people in your past, even the smallest things matter. 

How then do you break these soul ties?

1. Confess and repent: First step is to confess your sins that led to that soul tie and repent. If the soul tie is as a result of fornication confess, and turn to God for help. If you are not sure, ask GOD to search you and reveal to you any hidden sins. The bible says that if we confess our sins, He is just and faithful to forgive.
2. Break all vows: Have you ever been so in love that you said things like : I will love you forever, or till kingdom come, or I will never love any other apart from you, I will never let you go etc, wow! you tied your soul by just these words! Innocent as they may have seemed at the moment, they played a big part in forming the soul tie and you need to renounce them in Jesus name.
   Proverbs 21:23. Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.
3. Forgive: Most of the time we walk out of a relationship so angry and bitter and wish the sky will fall on that person, we hold so much bitterness and anger that we end up blocking our own destiny just by virtue of being bitter. Forgive and let go of that person. This will set you free. 
4. Renounce the soul tie: This is the most IMPORTANT step! Renounce the soul tie by actually verbalizing it. Find a quiet spot and lock yourself in. Find a piece of paper and write down all the names of people that you have had sex with or emotional ties. Don't worry if the list begins to look like a graduation call out, you know, with people with similar names dominating your list, for example **Ngugi A, Ngugi K, Ngugi T, Omondi L, Omondi F, Ken O, Ken K....you know! Just list them all do not be embarrassed, it is extremely important to call each and every person by name. Once you have all the names down, Say this prayer: "In Jesus' name, I now renounce any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and ______ as a result of _______________ (fornication, etc.)." Repeat until you have mentioned each and every name on your list.
5. Finally set yourself free: Break the soul tie in Jesus' name! Do this verbally using your authority in Jesus. Example, "I now break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and _________ as a result of ______________ (fornication, etc.) in Jesus' name."Again repeat till done with all the names in your list.

This may seem like a walk in the park but believe you me, it takes a lot of might and will power. After you have done this, stop collecting more soul ties by sleeping with randoms and wait for your ADAM to be awakened from HIS sleep. He will find you free and ready to start a HEALTHY relationship!.

Always remember that Jesus loves you for who you are, not because of your past!